dancing phobia

[Unregistered]

I have a friend who has a fear of dancing. He says he can not dance very well and when he is on the dancefloor he feels everybody is looking at him. In other situations he is a very confident person. Anybody have a script or method to help?

[Unregistered]

Your friend would benefit from a hypnotherapist, not a script.

[joethelayperson]

IF THIS FRIEND IS THE SAME ONE WHO CANNOT TALK TO WOMEN, IS AFRAID OF INSECTS, FEARFUL OF FAIRGROUND RIDES AND SUFFERS FROM PREMATURE EJACULATION.....YET IS CONFIDENT IN OTHER CIRCUMSTANCES!


Please tell me where he is confident!

I am assuming it is all the same friend. Otherwise you hang around with a pretty neurotic social circle


Then again that description (despite the talking to women bit) could quite easily apply to me .....you don't know me do you?

Anyway, despite my flippancy.....please ask this friend to attend a hypnotherapist. The fairground one is nothing unless he is somehow obliged to get on a rollercoaster regularly so we can discount that one

the premature ejaculation and talking to women bits are problematic BUT if he cannot even talk to a woman, then the other one is highly likely never to be a problem......unless he has some objection to self gratification being over too quickly?

From the sounds of it , your friend does suffer from a lot of the same things that bother me (dancing, insects etc)

he really could do with some help as his outward confidence would seem to be masking some serious self doubts.

[Newcomer]

I, too, must be afraid of dancing onstage. I got married about a couple of years ago, during rehearsals for a musical, and sometime after that, I discovered that I am having either trouble with dancing, or low self-esteem about it. My husband would try to boost my self-esteem about it, but it's not working, or didn't work.

As of right now, my husband and I are involved in another show that opens tomorrow night at our community theater, and there isn't much in the way of dancing, but I'm still kind of afraid of it.

Let me start at the very beginning. About five years ago, I tried hypnosis for what I thought was a crazy fear of making phone calls (I later learned that I had Social Anxiety Disorder). I had sessions for several months, and it didn't really help me (I don't know if I should try hypnosis again in the future).

[Terry (existing)]

You had sessions for several months and still wonder if you should use hypnosis again? Don't even think of it unless you are convinced that the therapist you hired was useless. You see, hypnosis works very quickly if it is going to give results, and if it doesn't there's a problem. That problem might be you, or it might be the pracitioner you chose to help you, but either way you know after one session, two at the most.....

[Newcomer]

I tried hypnosis first, because I was young (23 then, 28 now), stupid, and curious. Just like getting the cart before the horse, if you know what I mean. Now that I'm a little older and wiser, and know what to expect, don't you think that I should eventually decide on my own to try again?

Another attribute to that is that I had consulted one therapist and had a few sessions with them before they went to take a teaching job, then I was free of sessions for a month before I was referred to another one (the one that I was referred to now lives in my neighborhood, and is one of my good friends).

Based on what I've just revealed, what do you think?

[Merlin]

Try dance lessons.
It's worked for years

[Pdrive]

Yeah, your fear may not be irrational - it may be a good thing...

... dancing badly with lots of confidence is not a good look.



ditto: Take dancing lessons (probably cheaper than therapy as well :))


Pdrive